Outspoken comedienne and Precious star Mo’Nique tells Barbara Walters on her upcoming 29th Oscar special what she’s been saying for a little while now, she doesn’t care if her husband sleeps around:
“Let me say this: I have not had sex outside my marriage with Sidney. Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker. That’s not something that would make us say, ‘Pack your things and let’s end the marriage.’…”
And when asked what she would do if she found out her husband cheated 20 times Mo’Nique got even more direct:
“What if it’s 20 times? So what? We’ve been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are. Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don’t know who they’re laying next to. I’m very comfortable and secure with my husband.”
Meanwhile her hubby Sidney Hicks has said this in the past:
“My love is for her, and while I have not been intimate with anyone else, if I did, it wouldn’t take anything away from our relationship.”
Eric Benet is somewhere thinking, why didn’t I think of this!!? Is this healthy….would you let your spouse sleep around?
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IMO this is a true separation of LOVE and SEX…their love for each other is superior to the notion/occurrence of either of them having sex w/ another person. Even when you’re in a strong relationship where there’s love/intimacy and friendship involved you STILL have the desire for other people – that NEVER leaves…some people are simply more willing to subdue that desire or mask it as something else…if allowing your spouse to have sex w/ someone else doesn’t take away from the love, friendship, and intimacy you both share then i think it makes more sense than your spouse simply cheating to fulfill that desire where the result could lead to the demise of your relationship/
btw: i’m gonna buy like 10 copies of this issue and lay them on my coffee table w/ the article pages dog-eared and monique’s POV highlighted…LOL!
Wow, why get married then???
CO-sign!!!!!
WHAT’S THE FUCKING POINT OF MARRIAGE THEN???
STUPID!!!!
Marriage is so much more than sex. I’m sure everyone man woman child, has had sex with someone they wouldn’t marry, and hasn’t had sex with someone they would (i.e. Beyonce, Alicia Keys, Paula Patton, all women I would marry and haven’t even slept with them). I personally couldn’t let my wife be out there slobbin’ knob and rock knockin the boots all over Flatbush and Brownsville… but I would hope she would forgive me if I had an indescretion… And no she can’t have revenge sex… she’s supposed to be better than that as a woman if I married her, hence the term “My Better Half”!!!!
hahaha, so women are supposed to accept marriage is more than sex, but you aren’t??? This is where it all goes wrong, you’re up for your own ‘free love’ and indiscretions with other women, but your woman isn’t allowed to do the same. “she’s supposed to be better than that “, why doesn’t your woman deserve better than that (you) too??
AMEN. Herein lies the issue with men. Its ok for me but not for you cause ur a woman
ALL man have some desire for other women, weather or not he acts upon those desires has little to do with the woman he’s with but more to do with himself. Men often use the excuse that their needs aren’t being met or their mate is not satisfying them but truth is sometimes a man isn’t satisfied with just one woman, no matter what she does. So if he chooses to settle down and be with ONE woman, a man has to make a concious choice and EFFORT not to cheat, and give in to temptation. Not to use it as a cop-out but men truly are wired differently from women. Sex is just sex to us and we think about it all the time, we chase women because its in our nature, sometimes its the thrill of the chase, sometimes we want to see what they are like in bed, sometimes cause we are genuinely interested, and sometimes just to see if we can, but at any rate we can keep our emotions separate. Which is why when women cheat its so much worse. Most often, sex is an extension of an emotional connection for women. A woman’s affair could lead to her leaving her spouse or mate, while men keep mistresses around for mainly one thing. So if Monique is saying that if her husband did have sex with another women it wouldn’t be the end of their marriage then I applaud her because it takes a certain kind of women to recognize the true nature of man and not conform to what society considers UNnatural.
There are sooooooo many things wrong with your ‘theory’. First of all, not every man cheats or has the desire to cheat. There are some (probably very few in western society) who value their marriage vows, whether it be for religious or just plain loyalty reasons. Secondly, the reason why so many men find it difficult to forgive (or many cases just plain refuse) their female partner of an affair, is a SOCAIL factor and not natural. Our society, from the time we are young, mould different ways for boys and girls to act, and this includes what is and what isn’t acceptable sexually. This is not universal and even in today’s modern world, is still largely influenced by Christian and Victorian values. Which at large convince us that women ‘naturally’ have different behaviours from men and that some types of behaviour are ok for men, but unacceptable for women. If you look around the world, many people behave differently from the western ‘norm’. The typical ‘ hunter gather’ dynamic doesn’t occur in every society, neither does western attitudes to relationships, including your theory that it’s human nature for men to cheat. Whilst polygamy is quite popular in some parts of the world, other parts have polyandry systems. So how can men cheating be natural if so much diversity around the world exist??
i dont understand why shes going around telling her business like this. did someone ask “hey monique do you allow your husband to have sex with others?” and idk, if they asked her why she would even spend her time and energy answering and explaining her arrangement with her husband. i’m with oprah when she says as a celebrity you should keep parts of your life to your self. this was just tmi.
She is probably telling this before the websites start talking about him cheating on her. She thinks she is saving face by putting it out there before the sites start saying she is being played. I agree with you though, tmi.
Marriage is about commitment and if you can’t be committed to one you are a WHORE in my eyes. It is easy for the person sleeping around to develop feeling for the jump-off and then all love (might) be lost!
But this isn’t my marriage or anyone else’s this is Mo’ & Sidney and they had an agreement. That is their style of living & OH SO BE IT!
Wish them the best!
LOL, you are obviously a woman
Being a woman myself and knowing that the majority of men and women think totally different I find it hard to believe that Monique deep down inside is ok with this open marriage crap…I mean more power to her if she is but I bet my last dollar that she’s cool with this…now is this marriage is an arrangement to mask something else and there is no love involved than maybe she could care less, but my big mouth Monique with her larger than life persona is starting to show a weaker side to me…but thats my personal opinion! SB: I be damned if I would okay an open marriage and not be getting me some fun too! She’s a fool!
i agree with you. even though she says she would be ok with it, what person really would be? she can hide it all she wants but the hearts not meant to take that kind of beating repeatedly.
Is this what black women have come to, to believe that marriage IS possible? Have no standard and put up with anything? She is basically saying, “He’s a man, I’m fat, he’s going to cheat anyway, so I’ll just let him and accept it.” IMO, some people can handle relationships like this, I personally don’t think I could. There is always temptation but I know that I would never cheat if I was truly in love with someone. It is called love and self-control. If anyone is allowed in our bedrooms, BOTH of us will be there.
Why do you assume that she’s settling or it’s because “He’s a man, I’m fat, he’s going to cheat anyway, so I’ll just let him and accept it”. Maybe they’re both swingers, or they BOTH like the idea of having extra marital relationships, she might not be putting up with anything. I think the rules apply for both of them.
I mean. Wouldn’t work for my house, but if Mo is cool with it: so be it.
I’ve seen to many types of “marriages:” to judge now. Tradition is out the window for many. You just gotta know what works for you and if your partner is down for the cause.
That’s all that matters.
I agree with every word.
Co-Sign
Sorry but if you were married to that beast and those legs of hers that she doesn’t shave you would want an open marriage too just so you could get a decent lay once in a while!!!
…Oftentimes, people get into marriages and they don’t know who they’re laying next to. I’m very comfortable and secure with my husband.”
Sounds like her man likes men if you ask me… and she said somewhere that she doesn’t shave her legs cause he “likes” it… no he just likes MEN! lol
@ Y, you read my mind i agree!!! you cant say my wife cant cheat but if i do she should forgive me thats BS!!
To each his own….but let my husband cheat! IT’s OVA! Time to call the attorney, it’s to break up! http://www.fuckthatshit.com
I have a feeling they have an open marriage because they’re using each other as beards.
Some women do anything to hold onto a man…Don’t disguise desperation as “open marriage”!
usually I might agree with that…. but he’s no prize piece imo. And monique is quite attractive for a larger lady
I think it’s sad that anybody would agree to an open marriage. What is the point of getting marriage, if both parties can’t be faithful to each other?
I think it’s sad that anybody would agree to an open marriage. What is the point of marriage,if both parties can’t be faithful to each other?
this fat bitch dont care about herself…and is looking for somewhere to hide from her insecurities….and the limelight is the perfect place
I think she has this arrangement because she was sexually abused as a child and it’s probably hard for her at times to have sex with her husband. It’s not really the best situation but hey. Those who can’t truly heal their wounds and find peace do what they can to make a life.
Looks like Mo’nique has read the book “The Official Women’s Guide on How a Man Should Cheat” by Six Fernandez. In the book it says one of the main reasons men cheat is because women no longer do the jobs in the kitchen or in the bedroom our mothers and grandmothers once did. http://www.howmenshouldcheat.com
No respect for herself…….
yo kno som ppl be dum cuz they dont get tht she trust her husband……..monique tht not would i will do but lyk u say u trust him an kno him for ovea 25 years so do wat u wanta do oka gurl………it not mhe life so you live the life