In the new issue of ‘W’ magazine with Eva Mendes on the cover the actress says that she has never thought about having children. Also the article touches on her breif stint in rehab which she refused to comment on.
Motherhood is another role Mendes has yet to fully resolve. “I’ve never had a longing to have children,” she says. “I’ve been thinking about it lately because it’s like, Oh, God, am I going to do this? I don’t know is the answer.”
Despite her candor about most issues, she refuses to discuss her 2008 stint in rehab at Utah’s Cirque Lodge—for what her reps then vaguely called “professional support” for “personal issues”—professing that audiences know too much about actors. But she does go to therapy weekly, she allows, and “loves” self-help, pointing out that she regularly listens to audiobooks by self-help gurus Wayne Dyer and Eckhart Tolle. not sure if want “It’s really interesting,” she says of Tolle’s The Power of Now, “especially because Eckhart has such a comforting voice. It’s great to fall asleep to that and just have that sit in my subconscious.”
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WE love a woman with no need to have children. That is sexy to us.
-The Gingerales
really? then where are you, cause that’s where i need to be! LOL! i don’t want any and people call me selfish. some women feel that need and some just don’t. i’m one of five kids and i ADORE my six nieces and nephews and love kids in general, but…i just never felt the urge to have my own. heck, i think it’s MORE SELFISH to bring children in this world just to please everyone else.
Most that have shouldn’t in todays society…so I commend a person that is honest and secure enough in themselves to say that having kids isnt for them.
you should see the film idiocracy. in fact you don’t need to really see it as it’s not so great – but it’s a great and accurate premise. google it and then think about how it applies to your post.
I love this woman….i’ve always thought she was gorgeous ever since her cameo in the Will Smith-Miami music video (haha)…..nothing like a pretty, well-put-together Latina (this coming from a suburban white boy)
Eva,
To get past the “I don’t know” here are some things to think about from the author of Families of Two (interviews with happy childfree couples):
1. Spend Real time with kids of all ages
2. Spend More time with kids of all ages
3. Talk to parents (esp actors–how do they manage their careers and parenthood? What are the pros and cons now that they are parents?) And those who do not have kids by choice (call up Cattrall, Zellweger, and the many others childfree actors!)
3. Get clear on what experience(s) you are looking for if you had kids, then figure out if you think you can get those experiences another way–in other words, is parenthood the only way?
4. Answer, To what degree might are others’ desires or expectations be in the mix?
5. Imagine yourself at the end of your life—how will you feel if you had not had children?
Really get to why it is you would want to have children. Realize it is a lifestyle choice, and it is no one’s decision but yours.
Laura lauracarroll.com
Loves her