This just in. After much speculation and rumors Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore have announced their separation today. Here’s the statement from Demi:
“It is with great sadness and a heavy heart that I have decided to end my six-year marriage to Ashton,” says Moore in a statement. “As a woman, a mother and a wife there are certain values and vows that I hold sacred, and it is in this spirit that I have chosen to move forward with my life. This is a trying time for me and my family, and so I would ask for the same compassion and privacy that you would give to anyone going through a similar situation.”
The couple who have a 16 year age difference have been together for six years as husband and wife. See what Ashton had to say on Twitter after the jump.
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This relationship is so fake.
#Winning…. sorry..
Marrying with an age difference that in theory could be the difference between you and your mother is not often a good idea… She would have been 50 next year and he, 34. Seems almost like it would have eventually been an “unspoken truth” that she allowed him to step out with younger women to satisfy his natural desire to fraternize with those actually in his own peer group.
Demi will be alone, like Jennifer Aniston… along with multitudes of other middle aged women who are young at heart, but by no means young… who seek the spirit, physique and virility of younger men, with the stability, wisdom and mental acuity of a mature, older man… who may as well be a mythological character in a beer commercial
Good luck Demi!
P.s. Ashton’s Twitter entry is very telling… A man who says: ” Marriage is one of the most difficult things IN THE WORLD” obviously isn’t ready to be married. You will know, and it will be beautiful and long lasting when it is your time, if ever.
nigga you were on point until the last paragraph.
old men and young men know that marriage is difficult. the simple truth is that monogamy is near impossible for men. second, the irony is that it’s monogamy that fucks men over. men in long term monogamous relationships start caring less about their appearance and health – because one of the reasons that men take care of themselves in youth is to pull women. men in marriages live longer but in general have higher BMI and poorer health – they’re just better medicated because they go to doctors – whereas single men do not go to doctors.
this is why one of the classic signs of a man cheating is that he suddenly cares about his appearance again – he heads to the gym. starts getting haircuts more regularly. etcetera.
obviously the natural marital state is polygamy. a man marries the number of women that he can support and satisfy. this keeps a dude on point through his natural life and also he’s invigorated by the prospect of constantly getting new women.
the story of samson and delilah is a metaphor for EVERY marriage. marriage is castration. it’s literally cutting off your strength – which is your un-fettered virility (which is socially extended by your wealth).
this is why any good father/mentor/role model for a young boy would tell him – NEVER get married before you accomplish your dream. You won’t accomplish it after because you’ll be too busy attempting to meet the expectations of a woman – which might not have anything to do with what you’re trying to accomplish.
monogamy was designed so that subpar males were guaranteed a mate. in a polygamous world – highly successful men would get tons of women – leaving a lot of dudes with literally no options. this makes society unstable – because violence and sex are competing drives (both being manifestations of aggression). to stabilize society – each man gets one woman (and vice versa) but this doesn’t satisfy anyone because a vast majority of these relationships are “settling” and the participants are conscious of this.
marriage is going to be hard regardless. but monogamy – regardless of age – is impossible in a world where dope options are a facebook status away. the truth is that really smart humans will disconnect sex from committed relationships and instead participate in some type of polygamy.
I totally agree… women are built diffrently and unfortuantely are so emotional. My only objection to men being in polgamist relationship during this day and age is the fact they don’t know how to treat a woman. If you can show multiple woman the same amout of respect (and i mean for the true men out there RESPECT) then we as women may be more open to allowing men to see other women.
The fear of a woman is that she would be alone and not be loved. Inviting another woman or having another woman leaves one feeling alone and ultimately un-loved, however if men “played” it right, were honest and were able to divide their time, love, respect equally then it may work.
see this is the conversation i’d love to have with a woman. but without knowing that a woman would be receptive to this from jump – you’re hesitant to mention it because most women are absolutely not receptive to it and are in fact insulted by the mere thought.
but a man’s striving to get better and accomplish and be the best he can be is closely tied to his chasing of women. so when you take that away from him in marriage you take away the BEST part of him. it’s ironic actually – but the truest truth is that if you love something you let it free – not keep it to yourself.
the best way in your example – is not whether or not he’s treating all partners with respect – it would be that all the women and the man involved are partners with each other. IOW i would only bring in other women that you also are agreeable to – so she’s your partner in as much as mine. you’d never be alone, you dig?
Interesting analysis, I will give you that… but allow to propose my alternate theory: my belief is that most men who find monogamy nearly impossible, simply aren’t good candidates for the institution of marriage… as a matter of fact, I will even grant you that a great number of men are not true candidates for the judo-christian idea of “marriage”… I will also travel with you in the theory of the archaic, nomadic, cave dweller whom fertilizes many fields in his pursuit of plunder… but I must exit your mental locomotion where the neanderthal man becomes the mature intellect whom finds more strength in concentrated companionship and family, than in sparsely seeding countrysides at a time.
You see… your theory is based on anonymous sex alone, not on true “monogamous companionship”… where by definition, you aren’t describing what it means to have a lifetime bond, when your only commitment to that bond is as thin as your inability to restrain basic animal instincts… you are describing merely a young animal who must still prove his right of passage before he is ready to focus on anything other than his machismo.
So the short(er) answer… YES, it is nearly impossible for MANY men to pursue anything other than self-destructive vices in life, but where you fall short is your belief that LIFELONG immaturity, or an inability to focus beyond the bedroom is INHERENT in ALL males… that is spoken like true young warrior, not a seasoned student of life. No we are not perfect, but many of us are FAR more patient, far more responsible and in pursuit of many more levels of enlightenment with our closest companion and family in tow.
If you agree with polygamy, there is a modern day religion for that, no need to be untrue to anyone or propose new theories about ancient tendencies. But if it is a christian/monogamy based marriage/bond you seek, then be ready for commitment and sacrifice not unlike any thing you achieve in life that is worth having.
in closing, speak for yourself, defend your own shortcomings, do not cast them upon an entire gender genealogy.
my theory isn’t based on anonymous sex alone. it’s easy to see that.
in short even the idea that i’ll only have one lifelong companion is intellectually stifling. that’s not maturity – that’s prison.
i’m definitely speaking for myself – that goes without saying.
in the US 50% of marriages end in divorce – 80% in discoverable infidelity. the statistics agree with me. evolution teaches us that the most common situation is the most beneficial and thus preferable. memes (which are social genetics) follow the same rules.
in japan infidelity is so common that it’s understood that a man can have his side action – under the promise to never leave his true primary and first responsibility. divorce rates are low not because people don’t apply – but it’s virtually impossible to get one.
You speak in terms of morality and christianity. i first reject christianity as my slavemaster’s religion – not my own. i refuse to worship at the altars built by the men who enslaved me – whereupon they used religion as a tool to placate my anger and rage – to mindfuck me. my ancestors were polygamists for the most part. second – i reject the notion of static morality – it’s a variable and changing standard. polygamy isn’t amoral as long as there isn’t deception. and polygamous relationships need not have sacrifice or commitment – merely not an absurd commitment to another person exclusively until death. i love your moral equivocation there.
and whether my lack of desire to be in a monogamous relationship is a “shortcoming” or not – I’ll let you tell it – since you seem to be a paragon of virtue. by all means. I’m certain there is something Christian about casting stones – perhaps it’s relevant here.
Your defense of that which plagues mankind, sounds almost as if you simply believe that the religious institution of marriage itself (which predates American Slavery by the way) is fallacious by design, going so far as to even provide statistics from a civilization where I could just as easily give you startling statistics on how “same sex” marriages outlast and/or are more viable than traditional marriages, is at best evidence of the overall moral decline of society… To the same extent that we today quite often find ourselves defending the difference between men and women… where homosexuals make the amoral argument of tolerance and acceptance of, once again, behaviors that ail mankind.
Not going to argue moral opinions here, just saying that there is an established institution at the heart of the discussion, in which success IS highly achievable by many men… it is not a farce, nor a genetic design which prevents fidelity no more than learned behaviors alter the lifelong mind of a child. Without going into details, Did you know that there are many indigenous tribes of Native Americans, Native Africans as well as multiple species within the animal kingdom who remain strictly monogamous by culture? in other words, if you are allowing the culture (or lack thereof) of western societal madness to dictate your opinions on what is achievable by mankind, then you my friend, have a lot to experience.
You think errant marriage stats dictate the collective prowess of the human race? Let’s pull out some stats on Black Americans that SHOULD have us (Black Men) ashamed to even respectfully propose to a woman let alone conceive children with her (with a straight face). Ultimately, they mean very little to me and my beliefs, especially when they attempt to debase or disparage the true power and possibility of a people.
I am not Christian. I am not defending the religion, I am simply speaking in terms what MANKIND is and is not capable of according to your logic. Could care less about who’s mindfucking you, because in the end, you’re likely mindfucking yourself without a moral standard that transcends religion in my opinion. There is a reason why war is ugly and peace is comfortable and accommodating. We probably agree on more than you think… another time, another place.
None of you are scientists and you sound dumb. You all are idiotic. and I bet unmarried. I bet you are also products of failed marriages. Your parents are probably failures as well and you will be too. Morons.
of course you’ll find a woman to love you unconditionally with that attitude.
*sarcasm*
don’t worry. two years into your marriage i (or a nigga just like me) will be deep dicking her. you’ll think, “man, I sure am keeping my wife happy.” wondering why the pussy is a bit bigger than you’re used to.
fuck outta here. you don’t know shit.
wow. i can’t believe i just wasted my time reading those comments.
as a woman, i am telling you, you will not get women by being a polygamist. and as a cheater, you will also not get women.
so good luck mother fuckers.
good luck, you’re all stupid.
as a woman – you’re an idiot for thinking how you feel is how all women feel. there are 3.7 billion OTHER women on the planet allow them the latitude of having a different opinion.
as a cheater i got tons of women – both single and married. as a polygamist now – i get women but i don’t have to cheat. i am honest and upfront with my expectations and my life – though kept secret – is better than i could have imagined.
re: your luck? not needed. i make my own luck.
Interesting analysis, I will give you that… but allow to propose my alternate theory: my belief is that most men who find monogamy nearly impossible, simply aren’t good candidates for the institution of marriage… as a matter of fact, I will even grant you that a great number of men are not true candidates for the judo-christian idea of “marriage”… I will also travel with you in the theory of the archaic, nomadic, cave dweller whom fertilizes many fields in his pursuit of plunder… but I must exit your mental locomotion where the neanderthal man becomes the mature intellect whom finds more strength in concentrated companionship and family, than in sparsely seeding countrysides at a time.
You see… your theory is based on anonymous sex alone, not on true “monogamous companionship”… where by definition, you aren’t describing what it means to have a lifetime bond, when your only commitment to that bond is as thin as your inability to restrain basic animal instincts… you are describing merely a young animal who must still prove his right of passage before he is ready to focus on anything other than his machismo.
So the short(er) answer… YES, it is nearly impossible for MANY men to pursue anything other than self-destructive vices in life, but where you fall short is your belief that LIFELONG immaturity, or an inability to focus beyond the bedroom is INHERENT in ALL males… that is spoken like true young warrior, not a seasoned student of life. No we are not perfect, but many of us are FAR more patient, far more responsible and in pursuit of many more levels of enlightenment with our closest companion and family in tow.
If you agree with polygamy, there is a modern day religion for that, no need to be untrue to anyone or propose new theories about ancient tendencies. But if it is a christian/monogamy based marriage/bond you seek, then be ready for commitment and sacrifice not unlike any thing you achieve in life that is worth having.
in closing, speak for yourself, defend your own shortcomings, do not cast them upon an entire gender genealogy.
sorry for the repost…
It all comes down to HONESTY. Be HONEST about what you really want with your mate or mates. When deception and lies come into the picture IT WILL FAIL. SO if your a male that wants to screw people without commitment, THEN DONT COMMIT TO ANYONE. Let that female know your intentions. Say something like, “Hey Honey I dont really want to get to know you I just want to Fuck you.”
The problem is most of yall wouldnt get ANY PUSSY if you didnt LIE!
SO you tell the female yes I want to be in a relationship…. yes I will marry you. Knowing all along YOU WERE LYING!! SO the moral of the story is DONT LIE!! DONT BE DECEPTIVE! WAIT for the female(s) that is accepting of you sleeping with her and however many others you want to.
Just remember condoms dont protect you from ALL STD”S!
I like that phrase, “speak for yourself, defend your own shortcomings, do not cast them upon an entire gender genealogy.”
For those who do not believe in monogomy or marriage.. don’t get married. It makes
things easier.
I think that Bruce Willis is sitting back and smiling at all of this. Demi had Bruce jealous all of these years with a younger guy, magnifying Kutcher over Bruce with Kutcher’s youth and all. Now, the star going on 50 years old faces the real reality – she is just as old and slow as Bruce and should have stayed with him.